Thank You Father for everything....

Wow! What a year. I count it all joy, even though there were moments the devil tried to make me believe my God had forsaken me. I thank God for renewed strength and mind for I came out victorious. I am loved! You are loved! We are all loved by Him, for He is a good good Father. His word says that what He has for us is "exceedingly abundantly" above all that we can think or ask. Now that is just amazing because we know we can think of and ask for a GREAT deal, but He promises us more than that, meaning He will wow us. With great anticipation, i look forward to what He has ahead for me in my future and i urge you to do the same. May He help us not to get in the way of anything He has planned to do in and through us. Happy holidays xxxx

Ephesians 3:20-21

Don't lose faith

“I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith” (Eph. 3:16-17).

The devil is constantly trying to lie to us so we may lose faith in God. Faith is the only thing that God requires for Him to dwell in our hearts. He wants us to believe that through Christ we can do all things for real...Rather than the “fix-its” we mistakenly desire, God’s thought instead is that we would believe Him in regard to who His Son is to be in our lives. And not a “i'm just holding on” kind of faith, but an overcoming, ever-increasing, active faith in Jesus, the One God sent. This is how He dwells and lives in our hearts with power in our inner man—by Faith! Not by “pleasant” circumstances. Not by comfortable relationships. Not by having my peaceful times. No. It is BY FAITH that He can express Himself and live His life out through each of us. Believing that He is who He said He is. Sent from God; Lived in a Holy reverence and responsiveness and Love for His Father; Walked His life here sacrificially, putting others always before His own needs; Stuck by God and with God all the way to the very end without wavering or giving up or being selfish, to the very end when He finally was killed by hateful people. And then God raised Him in His body, flesh, mind, spirit and All, from the dead. He came up out of death, and God gloriously lifted Him to the heights of heaven and all authority, power, love, grace and Lordship were bestowed on Him forevermore. This is the One we believe. This is the One we trust. Let’s not hold back!

I exhort myself and whoever would listen to lift up our heads to our glorious God in heaven who is continually shining His life and love down upon us. Continually giving us opportunity upon opportunity to find Him and know Him in a special way in the “little” things in our lives. A conscious effort to turn away from sexual sin because we trust Him. Appreciating life and the blessings we see and do not see. A crossroads decision to deny myself and love someone who impinged on my so-called “rights.” Those painful moments when you should really just keep your mouth shut and reject selfishness. Lift up my head to see the One who went before us and who has provided every single need that I have. Let us trust Him and trust Him and trust Him that He will take care of us. We must determine diligently to trust in Him and love His ways no matter how much it hurts or how uncertain the future may look.Not back off or zone out or be shallow. Let’s go all the way? What have we got to lose? Nothing! His promise to us is that He would dwell in our hearts THROUGH FAITH!! Please let us not allow the enemy steal this precious gift. 

The importance of hearing God’s Voice

 A lot of us are so lazy that we allow people deceive us and speak into our lives and say it was God…RIDICULOUS!!! If you do not work out your salvation, the devil will lead you to destruction. Jesus said His sheep hear His voice, meaning we have to first be sheep in the spiritual context of the Good Shepherd. We have to follow God, and then we will hear His voice. It is a shame because I know so many people that have been deceived and led out of their God given destiny by so called men of god because they are too lazy to know God for themselves, these so called men of god will hear a little rumour then call you and tell you nonsense about your destiny and you will listen in fear just because you refuse to follow God..Such a big shame!! I sympathise and mourn with people like that because they have indeed buried their destinies.

I hear from God alllll the time. He is so awesome and talks to me every time. He also tells me when fake prophets speak to me. I hear Him through my trials; I hear Him through preachers and teachers. I hear Him through spiritual songs and hymns. I hear Him through reading His word, I hear Him through fellowship and conversation with my Christian friends,  I hear Him through the Holy Spirit, I hear Him all the time. The main problem people face is the ability to hear and recognize the voice of God, and this may lead to another problem, but you know what? God is good all the time and even in our disobedience and ignorance he cares passionately for us and will always find a way out for us, we just need to choose to allow Him lead.He is tooo good! I can never turn my back on such an awesome God. The enemy is constantly trying to distract us and steal our righteousness so we can no longer hear from God. Be Vigilant!!! Until we comprehend who we are in Christ, It is impossible to live a life of obedience that will enable us to hear God’s voice. God is active all around us, He is just too awesome, even when we fall, He is always waiting to pick us back up as long as we admit and reach out to Him for help. He is yearning for us to corporate with Him and delete the idea that we could do anything solely in our own strength.  What a mighty God we serve…Please make it your priority in life to seek first His Kingdom…..Have a blessed week ahead…Maamamia xxx

A trial for my growth- Fair deal!!!

Hello blessed and sanctified you, welcome to my corner. I was speaking to a friend recently and she was so scared about the next step of her life, like what will happen after this phase, worrying about the facts in front of her and the uncertainty of her future and I told her to stop trying to do things in her own strength and trust God completely, it almost made me cry because she didn't have to worry at all, all she has to do is love and trust God and He will show Himself. I also reminded her about when God came through for her last year in a difficult time. He is the same God today.

It’s not always greener on the other side. It’s greener where God places us, yes we can make plans but not in fear of uncertainty, but in peace trusting that all will work together for our good because we trust in the Lord. If we don’t trust in him, the first thing to do is repent and then trust in him, he is merciful and forgives. It happens to us all! We all have times in our lives where it feels like life is against us. It can be shocking and scary when it seems like everything is going wrong all at once.  You thought life was great and then somehow, without even trying – your life gets turned upside down but trust God, seek godly counsel if you feel overwhelmed. We are here for eachother. 

In moments of massive uncertainty we must allow ourselves a greater perspective than just to give up, throw in the towel and decide that life is against us.  If you trust God, He will give you double for your trouble and he will restore you. In the end the meek shall inherit the earth, that is his promise. You should worry if you don’t follow God and are playing with sin…you have to repent to be able to enjoy the fullness of what God has instore for you and also enjoy yourself in the process rather than worrying for nothing. Nothing is too small for God to handle,nothing is too hard for God….absolutely nothing. We need to be spiritually strong and keep working on our relationship with God and we will enjoy life more.


The difference between those who trust God and those who don’t is found in how each responds to life throwing them a trial. And trials will come. They always do.  My pastor always says-it’s either you are just coming out of one, in one or just about to enter one.
The question is, how do you respond to the trials, the upheavals and the scary things you didn’t see coming?

At a certain point, instead of expecting that things should go your way and getting stressed out when they don’t – we mature. We mature to understand that sometimes the greatest gifts are the setbacks, the moments that cause us to freak out and the times where we feel most challenged. We understand that life is not about comfort, but growth. And growth means that we must hold steady amid massive uncertainty. That is real FAITH and we should never question God.

So whenever times get tough, or I feel like life is against me, I pause and decide that what’s happening is for my growth – rather than for my downfall.

I pay attention to what I am grateful for. I ask to be guided to the lesson I am meant to learn – and then I choose to see everything that happens next as an answer to my prayer.

There will be moments where you will be challenged and pushed to the limit. Our aim should not be to avoid these moments, but rather meet them head on with courage, faith and a mindset that is looking for the opportunity to grow.

Looking for growth will allow massive miracles to come into our lives. Finding the opportunity to grow will allow us to find meaning in the seeming chaos and to emerge stronger, wiser and with more gratitude for the journey.

Here’s how you can turn upheaval into growth:

1.    Focus on what you already have; focus on what’s working (That's a blessing not to be taken for granted)
2.    Ask for guidance; pray for revelation as to the meaning in the chaos and peace.
3.    Surrender the outcome to God.
4.    Choose to see everything that’s happened as a vehicle for growth, rather than a reason to stop.
5.    Take life each day at a time. Don’t future trip. Be present with what’s happening now and trust,trust, trust. That is when God loves to work, when there seems to be no way.
6.    Don’t get caught in fear. Keep moving, remember, live is movement.
7.    Open up and ask for help. You aren’t an island. You do have resources; all you have to do is look for them.  Get rid of pride, it will strip you off allllll the promises God has for you.

I hope this helps with the seeming chaos of your life. If you look for it, you will find that what’s happening is happening for your growth, not your downfall. Have a blessed week ahead and keep your mind focused on Jesus....Maamamia xxx

Dealing with a breakup - Christ centred!!!!

Dealing with a broken relationship can be heart wrenching. You gave your all, you shared your life, you made memories and dreamed dreams together only for it to all fall apart. The feeling can't really be expressed but I hope these few lessons can help someone going through a very bad breakup. It's one of the hardest things for me to write but please be blessed.

1. IT'S OK TO CRY

Not saying you have to cry forever or too long.lol. Breakups hurt. It's not a divorce but I believe some breakups can feel like a divorce especially when you really gave it your ALL. It's nothing to be ashamed off or to hide. God created you to enjoy and thrive in love that lasts like Christ's lasting love for his bride. So feel free to feel and know that the pain you feel points to something beautiful about your God and his undying love for you. Hearts weren't built to be borrowed so the pain most times is God showing us why we should always base all we do on Him and Him alone. Cry it out, don’t hold it in.

2. DON'T REBOUND

The second most painful and most popular mistakes after a breakup is moving on to the next too soon.So don't do this. We must trust in God as we take healthy next steps. Affection can be an addiction and the easiest way to find what you have missed is to rebound right away but that will cause more pain in the long run. If we care about God, our ex and our future partner we will wait, pray and move on patiently and carefully. It's too easy to leave a trail of wounded people behind in our pursuit of emotional healing. Sometimes the best thing you can do for your future partner is to be still.

3. DON'T BLAME GOD

It can be easy to doubt, blame and question God especially when it seemed so perfect and " God ordained" initially. But never do that! The relationship may have been over because of character flaws or patterns of behavior that may disqualify us for marriage with a particular person but it does not nullify God's grace to and through you.
As we let each other into our hearts, our flaws are more likely to show up and cut the other person more deeply. Our mess is more likely to splash onto others, and theirs on us. But whoever had done the failing in your breakup, it wasn't God. Because of Christ, his promises never to leave or forsake you are true every moment. If you are trusting in God for the forgiveness of your sin and striving to follow him and his word, God has never abandoned you and he will never abandon you. You are important just as your ex also. His plans for you are bigger than your flaws, you just have to believe and receive. 

4. NEVER REGRET

There is a special shame and brokenness associated with breakups. Relationships and love may be celebrated more in the church than anywhere else because we (rightly) love marriage so much. Unfortunately, these same convictions often make breakups an uncomfortable conversation…at best embarrassing and at worst humiliating.

You feel like damaged goods, like you’ve been ruined in God’s eyes or in the eyes of others. The hard-to-believe, but beautiful truth is that broken-up you is a better you. If in your sorrow you turn to the Lord and repent of whatever sin you brought to this relationship, you are as precious to your heavenly Father as you have ever been, and he is using every inch of your heartache, failure, or regret to make you more of what he created you to be and to give you more of what he created you to enjoy — CHRIST.

When one prize is stripped away, we can graciously be reminded of how little we have apart from Christ and the fortune he’s purchased for us with his blood. He has become for us wisdom for the foolish, righteousness for sinners, sanctification for the broken, and redemption for the lost and afraid (1 Corinthians 1:30) — and affection and security and identity for the lonely man or woman reeling after the end of a relationship. So even in the aftermath of a breakup we have reason to boast, as long as our boast is in everything Christ is for us (1 Corinthians 1:31).

In Jesus, God is always and only doing good to you. There’s no circumstance facing you that he’s not engineering to give you deep and durable life and freedom and joy. He loves our lasting joy in him much more than he loves our temporary comfort today. He’ll make the trade any day, and we can be glad he does. Know that God is doing good, even when we feel worst.

5. FORGIVE YOUR EX

This is really important, for this is the beginning of freedom. For Christians, whether it sounds appealing or not, you will be together forever in heaven,he is your brother in Christ/ She is your sister in Christ.

While you will meet again and forever in heaven, you may not be able to be friends on earth. And that is not necessarily sinful. In fact, in many cases, the healthiest thing emotionally and spiritually will be to create some space and boundaries. Hearts that have been given away, at whatever level, need to heal and develop new expectations again.

Reconciliation does not require closeness. It does require forgiveness and brotherly love. You could start by praying for them, even when you can’t handle talking to them. Pray that their faith would increase, that God would bring believing brothers or sisters around them, that he would heal and restore their heart, that he would make them more like Jesus.

We need to learn to live today in our relationships, old and new, in light of our eternity together. Our patience, kindness, and forgiveness in breakups will shine beautifully next to the selfish, vindictive responses modeled in reality TV and adopted thoughtlessly by the rest of the world. So FORGIVE!!! Don’t say any bad thing about them but emphasize on the good and wish them well.

6. DEFINE  THE REASON FOR THE BREAKUP

Most of us Christians like to hide under the “ It’s not God’s will”. What about when you started? Was it God’s will then?

God very well may lead you to a breakup, but don’t use him as a scapegoat. Own your own sin and ask for forgiveness where it is needed. Then be honest about how you came to this decision, how he made this direction clear to you. Sure, some things will be intangible, but find the tangible factors. This is not a license to say harmful things, but helpful things, even if they may hurt initially.

First, it’s wise not to be alone in your opinion about the need to break up. Yes, your boyfriend or girlfriend may not agree, but you need to share and confirm your perspective with someone who loves Jesus and both of you. Go to someone you know can assess your heart in wanting to get out. If it can be a married man or woman, all the better. Talk to someone who knows what it takes to persevere in marriage, and see what they think about your “deal-breaker(s)” in the relationship.

Our imagination, especially in an emotional crisis, can be a lethal weapon that Satan leverages against us for evil. When we leave everything vague and spiritual, our ex will not, and the majority of what their mind creates will be lies from the devil to destroy them. Give them enough information about how God led you to this decision without crushing them or tearing them down.I say “enough” because there are lots of true-but-unhelpful things you could say. Again, run your talking points past a Christian brother or sister before taking them to your soon-to-be ex. In the end, they don’t have to agree with you, but it’s loving to help them toward the clarity and closure you’re feeling. It just may free them to grow and move forward sooner and with fewer questions.

7. GOD KNOWS YOUR NEEDS

You’re probably questioning this in the wake of your breakup, but God does know what you need, and he’s never too slow to provide it. He might reveal things to you about the things you thought you needed. Or he might simply show you how much more you need him than anything or anyone else.

God feeds the unemployed birds of the air (Matthew 6:26). God grows the flowers of the field and makes them beautiful, even though they’ll be cut, stomped, eaten, or frozen in a matter of days or weeks (Matthew 6:28–30). How much more will this Father care and provide for his blood-bought children?

When you ask for a husband, he won’t give you a monster. When you ask for a wife, he won’t give you a mental case. Even when it looks like he’s done you harm, he hasn’t. He loves you. He knows what’s best for you. And all things are at his disposal. All things. And if you continue to love him, ALL things will work together for your good.

One way God provides for us through breakups is by making it clear…by whatever means and for whatever reason…this relationship was not his plan for our marriage. The heart of Christian dating is looking for clarity more than intimacy. This probably won’t taste sweet in the moment, but if you treasure clarity, breakups won’t be all bad news. We all know some of the news we need most is hardest for a time, but fruitful down the road.

Trust him to provide for you each day (or year) whether you get married or not. If you do get married, know that he will bring the imperfect man or woman you need. Trust him like that.

8. LEARN FROM LOVE LOST

One of the devil’s greatest victories in a breakup is convincing a guy or girl, “It was all the other person’s fault, and I’ve already arrived as a future husband or wife.” The reality is no one… married or not….has fully arrived this side of glory. We are all flawed and filled with the Spirit, so we will all always be learning and growing as people and spouses…. present or future.

After the emotional tidal wave has crashed and passed, take some time alone and then with close friends to assess where God’s carrying you…who he’s making you to be…through this. Identify an area or areas where you want to strive to be more gracious or more discerning or more faithful…more like Jesus…moving forward.

You won’t have many relational crossroads more intense, personal, and specific as a breakup, so it truly is a unique time for some hopeful, healthy introspection, checked and balanced by some other believers. Praise God!!!

9. JESUS WILL HELP YOU FIND JOY IN THE SHADOWS OF HEARTBREAK

When we’re left alone and feeling abandoned by our one time best friend, it’s really hard to believe anyone knows what we’re going through. That may even be true of the good-intentioned people around you. It is not true of Jesus.

This Jesus came and was broken to give hope to the broken. “A bruised reed he will not break, and a smoldering wick he will not quench, until he brings justice to victory; and in his name the Gentiles will have hope” (Matthew 12:20–21).

The joy is not in knowing that Jesus had it hard, too. Not much comfort there. The joy is in knowing that the one who suffered in your place died and rose again to end suffering for his saints. God saved the world and defeated death through his suffering, and your suffering in the midst of your walk with Jesus…in this case, in a breakup….unites you to that victory, the greatest victory ever won. For those who hope in Jesus, all pain….unexpected diagnosis, unfair criticism, an unwanted break up…was given an expiration date and repurposed until then to unite us in love to our suffering Savior.

Jesus went before the broken-hearted to pave the way for joy in pain. We live, survive, and thrive by looking to him, “who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross” (Hebrews 12:2). His joy before the wrath of God against sin is our first and greatest reason to fight for joy — not just survival — after a breakup.

If you believe that, then make the most of this breakup, knowing God has chosen this particular path to grow and gratify you in ways that last. No relationship you have in this life will last forever, but the good things that happen through them in you — even through their sorrows, yes even through their collapses — will.

I love this song….Listen and be blessed. God bless you

A word of encouragement for the journey!!!

God help me! I am inspired to write this post expecting that the good Lord will minister something to you. 

I love the Word of God!! I just keep loving it more and more each day. Over the past couple of days i have been reading verses i have read before and the Holy Spirit has just been opening the eyes of my understanding and i want to share. There are absolutely no contradictions in God's word. One is born out of the other and if you do not seek understanding from the Holy Spirit,you won't get it when you read.

Sometimes we can have so much activity but nothing is productive. These times are real!! More than anytime, now is the time to be reading, praying, studying and witnessing to people. In

John 15:1-4 Jesus tells us that "He is the true vine and God is the vinedresser and that every branch in Him that does not bear fruit He will remove and that every branch that bears fruit He will prune, so it can bear more and more fruit. He says we are already clean because of the word He has spoken to us and that we should abide in Him and He will abide in us. As the branch cannot bear fruit of itself unless it abides in the vine, neither can we unless we abide in Him" this is a very powerful revealing read. 

Jesus is saying to us, we can never be productive, no matter how busy and occupied we are unless we stay connected to Him. I was at a retreat last week and it blessed me beyond my imagination. What God did in my life in those few days, i cannot tell it all!  

We need to constantly stay connected to the vine. Who are you listening to? Who is speaking into your life? Because you need to listen to what God says about you. He is the gardener! He is working in your life even when you are asleep. God is BIG!! He is good. He is the one that uses ALL things no matter how good or bad to eventually work together for our good. This our God! He will employ the circumstances of your life and produce fruit that will only leave you in awe.

We have to do all we know to do and more in knowing who God really is. I believe most of the trials we face are magnified because we really do not know who God is. Without knowing God , how do you expect to know what He wants you to do?

Trials are a good thing! They prove you and make you better. I remember when i was going through a tough trial in my life and one of my blessed brothers said to me " mama you are going through bootcamp and it is going to be tough but by the time you come out, you will be a strong warrior for Christ ready to face any battle" and boy was He spot on!! He was more than spot on...Everything that God has called us to do, He gives us the power to do. It is when we do not do it the way He wants us to do it but in our own strength it becomes difficult.

The way the devil is constantly seeking for a way to steal,kill and destroy is the same way God is after a manifestation in our lives. We have to be encouraged to know God is after fruit in our lives and we must be connected to Him at all times. We must guard our relationship with God jealously..do not allow the enemy steal that from you because if he steals that, he has stolen everything...The world is full of so much business, craziness and more. We must not allow the world take our connection with God...we must not. We need Him!!!  He is our dependency!! Our sufficiency!! We need to confess " God i won't let anything to rob me from being in a place with You where i am connected". 

This world is deceitful! Oh so deceitful in so many ways..We must pray and stay connected! Stay connected to eachother because we grow at the place of our joints. When one is down, the other can pick up. We must stay connected through His word. I don't trust my own instincts, they are deceptive..I always have to take it to God because i trust Him. We should love one another as Christians and help one another. Your success is my honour, the world has to know us by the love we have for eachother. I cannot just start with God! I have to finish with God..I want to always do what God commands because i love Him so much, i want to follow His will and not my own desires for my desires will destroy me if they are not inline with His word. We need to abide and when we abide you will see fruit, that is evidence of our abiding in Him. We need to have it pasted in our heads that there is not one element of us that is good without Christ.

You know it's funny because sometimes we may think we are in a good place with God or that we are actually abiding in Him until there is pressure, then you will be surprised at what comes out of you. Even at then He is still waiting for us to come to Him so He can refine us. He wants to help you, He wants to cleanse you. It is really when you are pressed, crushed and pushed that you know if you are connected to the vine or not. I want to be as fruitful as He intends me to be. I am not going to allow the business of my life take me away from God and i pray that as you read this you take stock of your life too. What do you spend most of your time, time that you will never get back doing?? 

I hope you are encouraged because that is why i have spent time writing to you, so you can be encouraged. Spend more time with Him..we have no reason to compete with eachother..don't envy, don't judge because you really do not know even when you think you know. We are all unique and special in our own ways and there is always something you can give that another doesn't have.Be willing and obedient and you will see what the Lord will do in your beautiful life. Don't just sit there, there is work to do in the kingdom for each generation has a responsibility to close evil doors that have been opened by the previous. We must focus on what God wants and not what we want...i love you all. Stay strong, stay rooted, stay grounded, stay connected to God and other Christians and you will win.

Remember that life is always going to throw stuff at you but you can make it through absolutely anything as long as you abide in the vine. No matter what the devil tries to do, he is already defeated. Have a blessed and productive week ahead and keep smiling like me.......Maamamia xxxx

Friendship! More important than family?? Yes!!!

I know the heading would have gotten you to be like " whaaaaa? What is mama saying? Friendship more important than family? No! Blood is thicker than water". 

Yeah! Yeah! You are right and family is very important but remember,  the decision of who you make your friend is what begets family in the first place. Afterall, you won't marry your brother/sister to start your own family, would u? No! I thought so. It is the friend you choose that determines your own family and the family of those you will give birth to. 

Some will say, what about same sex friendship, well that is also important but can never be as important as the friendship that will lead to marriage. Same sex friendship is what i call practice for marriage because no matter what,if your best friend is not your spouse then you have just married for the fun of it. And if you end up not getting married then you still win anyway for you have still experienced friendship in someone, be it same sex or not.

Now, who really is a friend?

The Bible says to have friends, we should show ourselves to be friendly.

For those of you that really really know me, you will know how important friendship is to me. I have been going through alot lately and have been seeking and searching for wisdom from God and i will love to share a few facts i have found. Especially with those who have no clue what friendship is really about.

1. To Find a Friend, Be a Friend

The Bible shows us how to make friends. As Proverbs 18:24 says, “A man that has friends must show himself friendly, and there is a friend that sticks closer than a brother.” There is a key to having loyal friends or making friends in the first place. You have to show yourself friendly. So if you are one of those people that say " i have no friends" and you really want to have friends then this is the key, be who you want and your standards will be set. 

2. Trust is an ingredient of friendship.

Without trust there can be no friendship. A friend keeps a friend’s secrets to himself as Proverbs 17:9 says, “He who covers and forgives an offense seeks love, but he who repeats or harps on a matter separates even close friends.” That is, a friend doesn’t gossip about friends faults and is quick to forgive them. A friend who repeats a matter (or gossips) can separate “even close friends.” That is a key to true friendship. If you repeat something that a friend entrusted you with, that will likely be the end of that friendship or in the least, they will never come to you in confidence again. If you have found that you did this to someone you consider a friend it's either they are not truly your friend or you repent now and go ask them for forgiveness. It's ok to make mistakes sometimes, as long as you are willing to correct them. Also, when you tell a persons secret to another person, they won't always hear from that person but guess what? The Holy Spirit reveals it all to them if they are in touch. It happened to me and since then i have withdrawn from the person and prayed for them hoping they will one day confess to me.

2. Friends Tell You the Truth

Your friends will tell you the truth even when it hurts. As Proverbs 27:5-6 says, “Better is open rebuke than hidden love. Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful”

It is better to hear it from a friend if you are doing something wrong because they truly care enough about you. A friend doesn’t want to see you hurt in the long run even if it might hurt to tell you now. I have often been accused in the past of being too emotional or that i stress on things too much. You know what? I love to trash things out no matter how long it takes, i get weary when i realise someone is hiding something from me especially when it comes to my flaws.The point is that the truth sometimes hurts, but flattery or patronizing someone in the end just for "peace" sake or to avoid confrontation usually does more harm than good. If you are my friend, no matter what it will cost me i will tell you and help you with your flaws especially if it will take you to hell or affects our friendship or affects me. 

3. Friendship is second most important thing in life after SALVATION.

A person becomes more like those that they associate with. This is why it is critically important to choose your friends wisely. Proverbs 13:20 warns us that we should “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.” Just like we are told, “you are what you eat”, so too we are warned to “not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared” (Prov 22:24-25) trust me this happened to me. I was very close to someone that just expressed so much anger and disgust and one day I ended up showing more than what the person has ever even shown me in my life. I saw a monster in me. I surprised myself and i made a decision that day to guard my heart and protect my self from certain people.Bad company corrupts good morals almost every time. You not only become “ensnared” by them but “you may learn their ways.” If you associate with hot-tempered people, you’re going to become hot-tempered yourself. Most often, we become like those we associate with no matter how saved you are. FACT!

4. Godly Friends Beget Godly Behavior

 In Psalm 119:63 it says, “I am a friend to all who fear you, to all who follow your precepts.” Those who fear God (which is a reverence and high respect for God) are good companions and make excellent friends. I loooooove people that love God, to me it's like " what could ever go wrong if God is the centre of it all"You will soon discover that their Godly values will rub off on you and these types of friends can be accountability partners to each other( the best) “The fear of the Lord – that is wisdom, and to shun evil is understanding” (Prov. 28:28). A Godly friend who becomes a best friend who becomes a spouse will never cheat on you when you upset them, instead they will go to God in prayer to fix it all. That is why as Christians we must renew our hearts DAILY, infact " every SECONDLY" so we are not tempted in anyway to do what the flesh desires. I never take the fellowship of the brethren lightly because it helps me stay connected as i know the devil is constantly seeking, so i ghast constantly renew mind as that is the enemies greatest weapon-The mind.

5. Be careful not to confuse Fair and Foul Weather Friends for true friends.

Friends are those that stick with you during the hard times. Trials and adversity can usually separate true friends from those who are just fair-weather friends. Why? Because, “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity” (Prov 17:17). When You get married, you should have married your best friend. In fact, it is recommend for betrothed or engaged couples to become friends first and foremost, before they get married. This type of friendship is an image of the relationship that Christ has for the church. A relationship where He literally died for His bride. In this same way, a friend loves his or her friend as they love themselves – through thick and thin, sickness and health, poverty and wealth.Your true friends will not be afraid to tell you the truth even at the risk of hurting your feelings but fair weather friends will always be careful for the 'friendship' they have with you is more important than the love they have for you, which the desire to help you would have sprung from. Constantly pray for God to reveal this to you in your friendship.

The focus for us all is Gods will, in the journey we must be careful not to allow the people we associate with take us out.The fact is that friends are indispensable in this life. The older a person gets the more valued their friendship becomes due to experiences and tested times.Many friends are closer than brothers or sisters are to each other. There is something special about having a friend that you can confide in, tell your troubles to without being judged and share your life with knowing they will correct you when you go wrong. It has been said that a sorrow shared is halved, but a joy shared is doubled. Proverbs 27:10a says, “Do not forsake your friend or a friend of your family” because you may need that friend in a day of trouble. The value of friends is one of the most important things in a person’s life: Their worth are not diminished by time, not devalued by inflation, not worn out by use, but like a fine wine, they improve with time. So are friends to those who have them; like medicine to the soul or as Proverbs 27:9 says, “Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart, and the pleasantness of a friend springs from their heartfelt advice.”

I pray you continue to be a friend that you are to those around you and one day God will reward you with a friend just like you. Have a blessed week.

Maamamia xxx

A GUIDE FOR LIVING IN 2015

First of all: HAPY NEW YEAR!!! Lol. I know it's been a while since i posted anything, don't worry I have been writing and i still will be,just haven't posted yet. Before I post anything let me share something with you and it's just a guide to have a fantabulous 2015.

Health:

1. Drink plenty of water.

2. Eat breakfast like a king/queen, lunch like a prince/princess and dinner like a begger.

3. Eat more foods that grow ON trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured IN plants..

4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy.

5. Make time to pray (It is soooo important)

6. Play more games but do not be addicted and do not play candy crush.lol

7. Read more books than you did in 2014 .

8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day

9. Sleep at least 7 hours per day.

10. Take a 10-30 minute walk daily. And while you walk, smile.


Personality:

11. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

12. Don't have negative thoughts on things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.

13. Don't over do. Keep your limits.

14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.

16. Dream more while you are awake.

17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes in the past, that will ruin your present happiness.

19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.

20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.

21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.

23. Smile and laugh more.

24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree...


Society:

25. Call your family often.

26. Each day give something good to others.

27. Forgive everyone for everything.

28. Spend time with people over the age of 70, and under the age of 6.

29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.

30. What other people think of you is none of your business.

31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.


Life:

32. Do the right thing!

33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful, or joyful.

34. GOD heals everything.

35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.

37. The best is yet to come...

38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.

39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.


Last but not the least:

40. Consider sharing this guide to those you care about.