How To Use Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil (SIJBCO) for Hair Growth

Dear customers,

• Apply small amounts of high-quality Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil to the roots and scalp of your hair daily.
• Massage the oil into your scalp using your fingertips.
• Leave on scalp overnight. This oil is easily absorbed and will not soil your pillow.
• Use Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil as a Hot Oil Treatment once per week, preferably on weekends. Simply massage generous amounts of Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil into scalp and hair, then cover with plastic cap and go under the dryer for 15-30 minutes.
• To remove oil, thoroughly wash hair with a natural shampoo and conditioner, such as Sunny Isle All Natural Lavender Jamaican Black Castor Oil Shampoo and Conditioner.
• Style and groom hair daily with any Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil All Natural Hair Pomade such as Lavender, Rosemary or Ylang Ylang formula.
• You will see results within two weeks.

Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil for Eyelash and Eyebrow Growth

Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil will help your eyelashes and eyebrows grow thicker and longer, and keep them from breaking. It also helps you grow new eyebrow hair in bare areas that might have been over-tweezed. Massaging a little Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil over the base of your eyelashes before bed prevents thinning and promotes rapid growth, leading to thicker, fuller, longer lashes.

Do not use Sunny Isle scented oils, such as the Lavender, Ylang Ylang and Rosemary Jamaican Black Castor Oil, on your eyelashes as the essential oils used in these products may irritate your eyes. Use ONLY the unscented Jamaican Black Castor Oil such as the Sunny Isle Extra Dark Jamaican Black Castor Oil and the Sunny Isle Regular Jamaican Black Castor Oil on your eyelashes.

How to Use Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil for Eyebrow and Eyelash Hair Growth

• Wash your face with a mild soap, preferably Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil Soap, to remove all traces of makeup, oil and dirt from eyelashes and eyebrows.
• Dip a mascara wand or a cotton swab into Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil, tapping off any excess oil. It is important to apply a thin layer, so use a clean tissue to dab away drips from the wand/cotton swab if necessary.
• Brush the oil evenly through your eyebrows from inner to outer tip. Then use the wand/swab to apply the oil to your eyelashes, just as you would mascara -- from root to tip.
• Leave the oil on overnight and rinse off with a mild soap in the morning before you apply your makeup/moisturizer.

Treating Acne with Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil

Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil treats acne and many other skin problems without drying out the skin -- unlike many other store-bought acne treatments. This drying of the skin slows down its production of sebum and has been linked to causing acne. Unfortunately, drying out the skin actually leads to even more sebum being produced in the future, which forces the skin to become dependent on the acne treatment to stay clear. Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil treatment, however, is able to prevent the skin from drying out, while still reducing the production of sebum.

How to use Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil to Treat Acne

• Place a large pot of water on the stove and bring it to a boil.
• Once the water is rapidly boiling, carefully remove it from the stove and place it safely on a sturdy counter.
• Place a towel over the back of your head, covering both head and face, and allow the steam from the water to hit your face. This will open your pores and allow Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil to become a much more effective acne treatment.
• Once this has been completed, rub your face with a washcloth to remove any excess dirt, then put a small amount of the Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil on the cloth. Any one of our Jamaican Black Castor Oils may be used, but we recommend the Ylang Ylang formula, which has a fabulous stimulating effect on the skin. Ylang Ylang essential oil helps to correct the production of sebum (oil) in the body.
• Rub Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil all over your face using circular motions, applying a little extra to problem areas. 
• Let the oil sit for a few minutes so it can be absorbed into the skin, then wash your face with warm water, making sure to remove all the oil.
• Splash your face with cold water to close pores (this is essential for the next step in the acne treatment), then pat dry.
• Apply more of the oil to your face, again using a little extra on problem areas, and let it sit overnight. 
• In the morning, wash your face with a moisturizing soap, preferably Sunny Isle Lavender Jamaican Black Castor Oil Moisturizing Soap, to prevent the drying of skin.

Sunny Isle Jamaican Organic Pimento Oil with Black Castor Oil for Rapid Hair Growth & Arthritis, Aches and Pains

Pimento is an evergreen tree native to Jamaica and the Caribbean Islands. The Essential Oil of Pimento is extracted by steam distillation of its leaves and seeds. Jamaican Organic Pimento oil increases blood flow to the surface of the skin. Therefore when blood flow increases to the surface of the skin the increased oxygenated blood will repair, replenish rejuvenate and bring healing to our bodies. Sunny Isle Organic Pimento Oil with Black Castor Oilapplied topically can give immense relief from arthritis, back pain and general muscle aches and soreness.

Sunny Isle Organic Pimento Oil with Black Castor Oil is also blended to promote Rapid Hair Growth as it includes Grape Seed Oil, Eucalyptus Oil, and Peppermint Oils. Peppermint is antibacterial and antiseptic so this is a self-cleansing blend that eliminates bumps and other scalp issues. The Pimento Oil stimulates the blood flow to the hair follicles and nourishes your hair. Massage into your scalp and edges to address traction and other types of alopecia. Use as a hair dress to moisturize and seal dry, breaking and fraying hair ends.

How To Use Sunny Isle Organic Pimento Oil with Black Castor Oil to promote Rapid Hair Growth

• Apply small amounts of high quality Sunny Isle Organic Pimento Oil with Black Castor Oil 3 or 4 times per week to your hair roots and scalp. Then massage the oil into your scalp using your fingertips. You may leave the oil on your scalp overnight. This blend also includes Grape Seed Oil, Peppermint and Eucalyptus Oil. Peppermint is antibacterial and antiseptic.
• You may use Sunny Isle Organic Pimento Oil with Black Castor Oil as a hot oil treatment alternative to your regular JBCO treatment. Use generous amounts of Sunny Isle Organic Pimento Oil with Black Castor Oil and really massage oil in scalp and hair.
• After applying Jamaican Black Castor Oil to your scalp and hair, cover your hair with a plastic cap and go under the Dryer for 15 to 30 minutes.
• After Hot Oil Treatment with Sunny Isle Jamaican Black Castor Oil you may shampoo with our Sunny Isle All Natural Lavender Jamaican Black Castor Shampoo and Conditioner.
• You may now style and groom your hair on a daily basis with any one of Sunny Isle’s Jamaican Black Castor Oil all Natural Hair Pomades, lightly scented with your choice of fragrance, Lavender, Rosemary or Ylang Ylang essential oils.

How To Use Sunny Isle Organic Pimento Oil with Black Castor Oil to Treat Arthritic Pains and other Bodily Aches and Pains

• Slightly heat the Sunny Isle Organic Pimento Oil with Black Castor Oil. Make sure the oil is not too hot or it will bring discomfort to your skin.
• Apply Sunny Isle Organic Pimento Oil with Black Castor Oil on the affected areas that experience pain, swelling and inflammation. Massage in a circular and up/down or sideways stokes. This will increase the absorption of the oil by your skin.
• You may leave the area open or wrap with a cotton cloth to keep warm
• The best time to make this application is at bedtime or at night.
• Leave the Sunny Isle Organic Pimento Oil with Black Castor Oil on all night. This will increase the absorption by your body. The increased absorption will lead to greater healing and enhanced benefits.

Find the answer in the story...CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!

Happy new month lovely people. What a privilege to be counted amongst the living with all the craziness that’s going on in the world. God definitely has great plans for you and you  must discover and accomplish them before your time is up. Death and a series of other things made me take action in 2010 to start my now business and since then I have not turned back. It has been a journey of successes, failures, disappointments, tears, laughter, new relationships, breakups and so much more but in all God has always been there, picking me up when I fall, strengthening me when I am weak and delivering me when I am afflicted. He is just a good good Father and I owe everything I am today to Him and Him alone.

 I remember when I first started and I sent a box of shoes down to Lagos, my helper at the time helped me store the shoes at her house in IKOYI and I was trading from there through my blackberry, I still remember the first item I sold and sent an invoice for, it was these lovely black LANTAGEN 94 heels from aldo and i made such a lovely profit from it because they were so beautiful and I got a good deal for them…afterwards my other  helper  FUNSO, the  person who first helped me manage my business  took over from there…she was so helpful and I appreciate her till this day as she helped with my  first official customers at her hostel in IDIARABA, may God continue to bless her and all those that have managed my business for me till date. God was just blessing me and opening doors for me ..i remember when we were contacted by Guarantee Trust Assurance(GTA) and we ordered books for their staff and that pay was very encouraging and we strived to do better, our customer base kept expanding by the day and God equipped us…we had customers all over Nigeria, some in remote areas with no popular banks, so we had to open bank accounts to cater to them as online bankng wasn’t so popular then, we opened so many..lol..we almost even opened ECO  bank but never got the chance to complete the form.lol..we visited so many countries too just so we could offer more and better for our customers….one country we always wanted to visit due to some customers request was TURKEY and if not for the bad news we just heard recently we were actually going to visit this year but God knows best. We have been so privileged to be at places where we have met with dignitaries like the QUEEN OF ENGLAND  and offered services for her..we have also met so many other celebrities even if we haven’t worked with them  but just being there and knowing the influence they have, has just been a blessing in itself and has been very encouraging .I officially registered Mias’boutique in 2011 and had BISOLA as my first personal assistant on my payroll, I remember when we took a flight to Abuja together for business and she told me how that was her first time ever boarding a plane and how she was so grateful to me for giving her such an opportunity.. I felt so honoured to have experienced that with her and be a part of her story…as I remember the fear on her face now when we took off, its still funny….she had a good time and I thank her for her dedication during the time she worked with me. I continue to thank God for all the successful tradefairs we were a part of and specially to the first one at LEKKI which was the Mobile Marker..

I still remember how helpful and friendly Juwa was(may his soul continue to rest in peace) my heart still hurts when I remember his death and I pray God continues to keep his lovely wife strong and give her the strength to move on....Long live Juwa and the mobile market for you will always be a part of my success story…we made outstanding sales that day and since then we always supported them whenever they have a tradefair..from there we graduated to going to other states for tradefairs and even organized our personal tradefair for the first time in ABUJA. Since then we have organized in Anambra and Benin and look forward to organizing more..we always wanted to visit CALABAR but never got the chance to but we definitely will very soon by Gods grace.

Anambra Tradefair

We expanded in 2014 to MiasXtra Ltd with our head  office in LAGOS,because God just kept equipping us and we knew the boutique was not just it, so we had to ask God to help us expand and He did. We already started doing personal shopping, forex and went onto logistics/procurement where we deliver letters, help source for and  buy items such as WEDDING/BRIDESMAID DRESSES,CAR/MOTORBIKE PARTS AND ACCESSORIES all on a regular basis and services within Nigeria .God has blessed us in such a way that we have the means to not just do logistics within Nigeria but to/from Nigeria and the rest of the world. I spoke to a top manager at DHL and I was so encouraged when he commended my work and suggested I partner with DHL till I am able to have my own…When we signed this contract it was just overwhelming what God was doing, I actually just smiled at God and asked Him why He trusted me so much to be able to do all this….we have helped our customers deliver goods from Nigeria to Angola,UK,US,China, Ghana, sierra leone,france,Burkina faso etc..all in good time from 2-10 WORKING DAYS depending on the service they pay for and we always over deliver.We have a sister company based in New York that deals with our US shipment on a regular basis and we also have partners all over the world. We have divided our services into 4 categories: Online boutique, personal shopping&services( which have included all sorts from helping buy clothes, shoes, pay for INTERNATIONAL FLIGHTS, HOTEL RESERVATION, INTERNATIONAL SCHOOL FEES and MEDICAL BILLS), logistics/procurement and Forex(We pay your client or preferred bank account WITHIN 12HOURS and we always over deliver, we expanded recently and now offer a DOLLAR to NAIRA AND VICE VERSA service ). Each department plays a separate role and we strive everyday to make our clients the happiest and most satisfied. We have been so privileged to work with a lot of great web designers that have helped us in our journey so far..amazing businesses like PARAGONEFX,GRANDAFFAIRS,IN10CITY etc…these guys are amazing at what they do and have blessed us with their talents…,may God continue to uplift them.

Now to all our customers who participated we want to say a very very big thank you, the results are out now:

1.   For the Camo Glasses our winner is @Kane_Sliq

2. For the tutu dress our winner is @oubuara

3. For the check shirt our winner is @baba_K

4.  For the lace shoulder dress our winner is @nzuri_v

  @iamoluwaz answered  correctly but not quick enough.

5. For the miss selfridge jeans skirt  our winner is @leroy2kz

@ay_black answered correctly but not quick enough

@ducci answered correctly but not quick enough.

6. For the one hand diamente dress in blue, our winner is @nzuri_v.

7.  For the Rihanna ticket our winner is @nzuri_v

@leroy2kz answered correctly but not quick enough.

8.  For the one hand lipsy dress, our winner is @ducci

@adedoyin answered correctly but not quick enough

@nzuri_v answered correctly but not quick enough.

9. For the red patent courts, our winner is @gud_news

@legbelekpata answered correctly but not quick enough

10. For the trouser suit, our winner is @Thelma

@masanta answered correctly but not qualified

@gud_news answered correctly but not quick enough

@nzuri_v answered correctly but not quick enough

@the_queenpie answered correctly but not quick enough

@legbelekpata, @oubuara, @gud_news all answered correctly but not quick enough.

11. For the flipflops, our winner is @leroy2kz,

12. For the dinner gown, our winner is @Thelma

@okiemute, @nzuri_v answered correctly but not quick enough.

13. For the jersey blazer, our winner is @oubuara.

14.For the flowery shorts, we have no winner :( 

15.  For the white con top, our winner is @omaonthegram

@thelma answered correctly but not quick enough

16.   For the colour block belt, our winner is @jasminesfacediaries

17.   For the black linen skirt, our winner is @nzuri_v

18.  For the next shirt, we have no winner L

19. For the miss selfridge belt, our winner is @jasminefacediaries

@dukuedirin,@evaclassynife,@pitan_debbie,@oubuara answered correctly but not quick enough.

20. For the miss selfridge sling bag, our winner is @doracuzz

Although you have not qualified , because you are not an existing customer but no qualified person answered correctly and you still have a chance to win. You can be a customer by just paying N1,000 for delivery.

21.For wine peg pants, our winner is @Ugonna

@yinka, @toriaola answered correctly but not quick enough.

22. For kids river island jeans, our winner is @ugosi

@prince segebee answered correctly but does not qualify.

23. For river island skirt, our winner is @toriaola

Although you have not qualified , because you are not an existing customer but no qualified person answered correctly and you still have a chance to win. You can be a customer by just paying N1,000 for delivery.

      24.  For size 14 skater dress, our winner is @ducci.

      25.  For the bangle set, we have no winner 

  26. For the organic ring, our winner is @oubuara

Please email us your address as soon sas possible and we will post your wins to you. Thank you and God bless #Itsurprerogative

mia@miasxtra.com

Prayer confession

·         This is the day that the Lord has made; I will rejoice and be glad in it.

·         I pull down every negative energy working against my life.

·         Spirit of favour, counsel, might and power, come upon me

·         I shall excel in every area and nothing shall defile me

·         The Lord shall anoint me with oil of gladness 

·         My ears shall hear good news and I shall not hear the voice of evil

·         My future is secured. God has created me to do some definite services. He has not created me for nothing. I shall do good, I shall do His work.

·         I shall be an agent of peace

·         I will trust in Him in whatever I do and wherever I am

·         I shall never be thrown away or downgraded

·         The anointing of God is upon my life to give me favour in the eyes of God and man all the days of my life

 

·         Oh Lord, make a way for me where there seem to be no way

·         My life will not follow any evil pattern

·         Oh Lord, let the anointing to accomplish great things fall upon my life

·         Every stronghold of failure in my life break 

·         Oh Lord, take me from where I am now to where you want me be to be 

·         Every chain of stagnancy in my life break

In Jesus holy name, Amen!

"The righteous cry and the Lord heareth and deliverereth them out of all troubles." Psalm 34:17

Isaiah 43: 18-19

That's my scripture for today. It says we should not remember the former things nor consider the things of old. For He will do a new thing.....

Lord help me to let go of the past. I want to make room for the new things You are doing in my life. Help me to forgive myself    For times i have failed You. Show me the good You have brought out of those times or will bring out of them in the future. Thank You that You have made a way out of the wilderness of my past. I will overcome.

Emotional wounds will destroy you!!!!

Hmmm! My life. What a beautiful life i have...so beautiful that it makes the devil so jealous and he is bent on destroying it. But guess what? I have a good good Father. He chose me.... He first chose me when i was a teenager and since then i have known no peace...I have had all sorts of attacks in my life...physical, mental,emotional,health,financial you name it from all sorts of angles but still I stand. I thought i was ok, i thought i was fine only for God to show me things about me i never even knew existed and even when He showed me i didn't accept them... I blamed one person or situation or the other but i am sick of being held and enough is enough...I have to be set free tonight. I am sharing this because I feel led to and i know someone will be blessed by this. 

We have experiences in life that leave us broken without us knowing,till life throws situations at us and we respond with hurt and anger over something that is not even enough to cause such a reaction. Whenever you react with hurt and anger you lack emotional wholeness, infact you are MAD because the emotion you put towards the situation at present is emotions from the past which is not proportionate to the situation at hand and when you watch yourself out of your skin, you will agree that you are mad. So speak to God and let Him heal you from that past hurt. Psalm 147:3 is His word, so remind Him of it and declare it in Your life. Say this out loud " Father i ask that I trust in You as my healer. Build my faith to depend on You as my healer. Reveal to me that You are filled with mercy and grace. Convict me of Your willingness and ability to heal me in Jesus name. Amen!!

Sometimes we blame God for giving us emotions but it is wrong. God did not promise us a life without wounds, He just promised that He will be there with us and heal us whenever we are broken...if your emotions have been wounded or torn apart guess what? You will have sinful and negative emotions cultivated into your life from that emotional wound... So it is important you plead for God to release His power in your life so you can experience emotional health and wholeness. Genesis 1:27 says that God created us in His image, if the image you portray does not look like God then you need healing... Ask Him. Don't accept that to be you- God forbid that cannot be you because that Cannot be God... Do something about it... Pray and fast it out and don't stop till you see it gone.

Ask God, call a few prayer warriors to agree with you. Ask God to bind satan and his demons from your life. Speak to them and tell them to seize from harassing and oppressing you... Nooo it is not ok to be that way... It is not ok to scream and shout and hit and insult because of your lack of emotional strength... That is not of God! 

Do not neglect or suppress hurt or pain. They will come back in fact stronger and monstrous...face them.. Face them head on and seek for God's healing and move on by His grace and power and declare that past hurt will no longer hurt, hinder or destroy your present and future . Hebrews 13:5-6 has said it thAt God is your helper and man can do you nothing so forgive and truly forget... Don't allow man cause you to sin... Root out that negative emotion and cast it out,replace them with the fruit of God.

Emotional hurts can produce bad bad behaviour... Lord! Baaaad behaviour that stinks and oozes and these behaviors can hinder and destroy relationships, take hold today and cast them out and ask God to deal with any sinful attitudes or behaviors in your life that would hinder your relationships.Plead that God will grant you healthy and Godly relationships... Relationships thAt hang on love... Matthew 22:39 says we should love our neighbours as ourselves so before you act negatively to anyone ask if you will act towards yourself like that...

Victim mentality... Rebuke it... Pray that God will enable you to confess and repent of any sinful responses to your emotional wounds. Pray that you wont see yourself as a victim but a victor and most importantly take responsibility for your actions and dont blame anyone for acting the way you did... It was all you and you and you...confess your sins to Him And He will be just to forgive you from all unrighteousness. Confess them... Do not be ashamed for proverbs 28: 13 tells us that if we cover our sins we will not prosper but God will have mercy on you if you confess and forsake them. I hope this helps anyone that has been emotionally wounded. 

This is my prayer 

Father! You are the healer of the broken hearted. You declare in your word that You bind up wounds...Release Your healing power into my life. Be gracious to me. Cause me to sense and know Your love as never before in my life. Open my eyes to those wounds that have me bound and hurting. Remove the pain from my life, fill my wounds with your mercy. Set me free from unforgiveness, deliver me from harboring unforgiveness. Remove anger and hatred from my life, replace it with Your love. Remove depression and despair from my life, replace it with joy. Remove fear and anxiety from my life and replace it with peace. Remove resentment and temper from my life, replace it with longsuffering. Remove bitterness and a critical spirit from my life, replace it with kindness. Remove selfishness from my life and replace it with goodness. Fill me with Your love...let Your love overflow. Show me Your concern for me. Cause me to seek You with allllll of my heart. Manifest Your power and grace by healing and blessing me tonight...in Jesus name. Amen 

:) 

Your Anger is causing damage!!!

Angry outbursts are destructive in all relationships, especially in your home. Children are the most vulnerable to parental anger, and they mirror their parents’ behaviour. We shape our children’s destiny by our words, behaviours, and attitudes, and if they’re raised in a home that’s consistently high-volume, they’ll react similarly. Your actions are training your children to be hysterical and violent. Soon everyone will be overreacting, flying into fits of rage, and attacking one another. When you exhibit tantrum-like behaviour you’re acting out of a selfish need to get what you want, when you want it, in the way you think you ought to have it. Please - for your family’s sake - start acting like an adult; exhibit self-control. ‘Imitate those who through faith and patience inherit the promises’ (Hebrews 6:12 NKJV). Notice, you must have faith and patience. You may not be able to control what happens in life, but you can certainly control your reaction. Whether it’s the anger a father brings home from the workplace, or a wife’s anger towards her husband, it can bring a curse. Simeon and Levi harboured anger in their hearts and became vicious and vindictive murderers. Because of this, a curse came upon them, and the anger was passed down from generation to generation (see Genesis 49). You must break the curse by resisting the temptation to let anger dictate your behaviour. In the words of James: ‘My dear brothers, take note … Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires’ (James 1:19-20)

Words are POWERFUL!!!

Words!! Words!!! Words!!!! This tool is so powerful oh my gosh...I can't even stress on it enough. I am so eager to post this because this was sent directly to me by the Holy Spirit at the RIGHT time...God is so good..He is!! He is always there, always, especially at your lowest. He said it that He will never leave nor forsake you and He MEANT IT.

I have always been a person of words and I remember doing the love language test twice in the space of two years and my results were exactly the same with "words of affirmation" topping the list, well i wasn't surprised because growing up i have always known the effect of words-be it positive or negative and i try to  let those who come into my life along the way aware of this so they know how to not hurt me. Well, now let us see what the bible says:

“Proverbs 12:18 There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health" There are words that are cutting and killing; words, which grieve the spirits of those to whom they are spoken, and cut them to the heart; or slanders, which wound the reputation of those of whom they are uttered, and perhaps incurably; or whisperings and evil surmising, which divide and cut asunder the bonds of love and friendship, and separate those that have been very dear to each other; but the tongue of the wise is health — His speech, both in judgement and in common discourse, is sound and wholesome in itself, and tends to the comfort and benefit of others, closing up those wounds which the backbiting tongue had made, restoring peace, accommodating matters, and persuading persons at variance to a reconciliation.

Relationships can fill our lives with joy and delight. But they can also tear us apart with heartache. Good relationships take hard work, especially when you have to mend broken bonds with the people you love most.

Because all of us are imperfect, misunderstandings and differences are inevitable. Often, however, a successful relationship depends less on compatibility than on HOW YOU DEAL WITH INCOMPATIBILITY..

In Colossians 3:14 - the bible says “binds everything together in perfect harmony".
 Therefore, one of the most essential skills in relationship is the ability to resolve disagreements in a loving way. What we say,how we say and how we listen to others is important to God. He warns us that "death and life are in the power of the tongue" and that we must give account of "every idle word" we speak (Proverbs 18:21; Matthew 12:36).

Thankfully the Bible records a number of things that can help us understand others and be understood—which is the essence of respectful communication in relationship.

God has revealed many important principles in the Bible on how to speak to each other respectfully in relationships. By following these keys, you can strengthen your relationships and learn to think and act more like your loving Creator.

James 1:19 - "So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath."

Many of the communication problems that wreck relationships come from violating these three keys. We tend to be slow to listen but quick to speak our minds and in the resulting confusion and selfishness we are very quick to get our feelings hurt and to get angry.

It's natural to think we know what other people want or need before they finish asking. And we generally assume that what we have to say is what the other person should really be interested in hearing. Listening skills are rarely taught and generally neglected.

Proverbs 18:2 - A fool has no delight in understanding, but in expressing his own heart.

We all want to, and are taught to, express ourselves. But when our desire for self-expression keeps us from trying to really understand the other person, we are being foolish and selfish. This is the opposite of the attitude the apostle Paul encouraged: "Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others" (Philippians 2:3-4).

Proverbs 10:19 clarifies that it is a "multitude of words" that generally causes the problem. You  should avoid being overly talkative and garrulous. Also we must be very careful to think before we speak and to choose our words carefully. Whatever we say should be edifying and intended to reflect the nature of Christ and to glorify God.

Colossians 4:6 - "Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one".

Proverbs 15:1-2
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly, but the mouth of fools pours forth foolishness.

I pray God gives us the patience needed to be able to communicate effectively with one another and avoid damaging souls. It is well!!

Prayer for anxiety.....

Lord, I confess that there are things that make me feel anxious in my soul. I lift them up to You and ask that You would take those anxieties away and give me Your peace. Comfort my soul as only You can do. Help me to understand my life and my circumstances from Your perspective so that i won't be tempted to dwell on them with a heavy heart. Thank You for the comfort of Your unfailing love.

It Is Well With My Soul......

At a time when I almost gave up being happy and hating myself for who I am (Imagine!), I read a story and it encouraged me, so thought to share. 

A King had a male servant who, in all circumstances always said to him; My king, do not be discouraged because everything God does is perfect, no mistakes. One day, they went hunting and a wild animal attacked the king, the servant managed to kill the animal but couldn't prevent his majesty from losing a finger. Furious and without showing gratitude, the King said; if God was good, I would not have been attacked and lost one finger. The servant replied, 'despite all these things, I can only tell you that God is good and everything He does is perfect, He is never wrong'. Outraged by the response, the king ordered the arrest of his servant. While being taken to prison, he told the king again, God is Good & Perfect. Another day, the king left alone for another hunt and was captured by savages who use human beings for sacrifice. On the altar, the savages found out that the king didn't have one finger in place, he was released because he was considered not "complete" to be offered to the gods. On his return to the palace, he ordered the release of his servant and said; My friend, God was really good to me. I was almost killed but for lack of a single finger, I was let go. But I have a question; If God is so good, why did He allow me to put you in prison? His servant replied; My king, if I had not been put in prison, I would have gone with you, and would have been sacrificed, because I have no missing finger. Everything God does is perfect, He is never wrong. Often we complain about life, and the negative things that happen to us, forgetting that everything happens for a purpose. God is good and perfect!!The song "It Is Well With My Soul" was written by a successful Christian lawyer Heratio Spafford,his only son died at age 4 in 1871,in 1872, the great Chicago fire wiped out his vast estate made from a successful legal career, in 1873 he sent his wife & 4 daughters over to Europe on a summer trip on the ill fated ville du Havre. Since he had a lot of work to do, he planned to follow them later.The Ship sank & he lost his 4 daughters with the wife being the only survivor,she sent him a famous telegram which simply read,SAVED ALONE....  On His return home, his Law firm was burned down and the insurance refused to pay, they said "It's An Act Of God".  He had no money to pay for his house and no work, he also lost his house.  Then while sitting and thinking what's happening to him, being a spiritual person, he wrote a song - whatever my Lord, you have taught me to say - It is well, it is well with my soul.  My dear friend, a good attitude will determine your altitude.  When you look at your life, career, job or family life, what do you say?  Do you praise God? Do you blame the devil?  A good attitude towards God makes Him move on your behalf.  Just sit down and say, Today God, it is well with my soul, I am thankful I had a peaceful sleep, I am thankful I am alive with possibilities, I am thankful I have a roof over me, I am thankful I have a job and a successful business, I am thankful that I have Family and Friends.  Above all, I am thankful that I have the Lord on my side.  Be blessed and don't be envious or shocked when others are prospering because you don't know what they have been through to get there (test, trials and tribulation) so thank God for what you have.  "Little is much when God is in it. It Is Well With My Soul!  Have a blessed day and take control of your emotions..Trust God always with a genuine smile from within.