Train! Don't Blame

Hello beautiful readers, I recently joined a group and I saw a post and shared it with them and someone made a comment about judging and it made me just think a little this morning. Many times in relationships we love to blame the other person.We like to blame them for not loving us the way we want to be loved, or for not making us enough of a priority, or for being too stubborn and on and on.Then we start giving names to the way we interpret others actions. So instead of saying: "Hey, I'd really appreciate it if you let me figure it out on my own," or "The way I really feel loved is when you do this or that or say this or that." When we are lacking, we say: "You're selfish," or assume that they don't love us. So instead of expressing how we feel, we blame, judge and then convict the other person of being guilty. Then we project our verdict onto them and wonder why they react negatively and then use that negative reaction as further proof that our verdict was in fact, correct.Instead of blaming and judging, if we can open up, become vulnerable and EXPRESS our feelings and needs, we give the other person an opportunity to course correct with this new information.And, if over time you are expressing your needs and feelings and they aren't being seen, have the courage to pick up your things and leave. There are over 7billion people in the world  It might seem scary, but showing emotion and expressing your needs is how you build intimacy. And having high standards and the courage to maintain them is how you make sure that only the best kind of relationships remains in your life.It's important that we no longer blame the other person, but instead to see the other person as a mirror of his or her own life. It's important to share your feelings, rather than blaming someone else for not meeting the needs that were never expressed in the first place. It's important you get strength to walk away from a broken and unfulfilled kind of love if your needs and emotions are not being seen. It is also important to be able to also meet the needs of the other person. SO my point is express yourself and set loving boundaries. Have a lovely day..Maamamia Ps: Don’t forget to check out my site, we sell lovely tees for guys and much more, this is just a sneak peak. Its your prerogative :0 www.miasboutique.co.uk