LOVE!!!

Happy Sunday!! I know it has been a while but trust me I have been writing, just haven’t been publishing but I will try my best to publish more often than not cos even though we are all busy with our daily struggles, we still always need a reminder that God kept us for a reason. I think it's safe to say that almost everyone on the planet has been hurt in a past relationship or something similar. If you haven't yet, then you will be at some point. Heartbreak happens. My pastor usually says “ if you’re not going through it, then you are either just coming out of it or about to enter it” and that’s the truth about life. Don’t get me wrong, heartbreak doesn’t necessarily mean its just in a boy/girl relationship..Life can break your heart but God heals and restores and I am grateful I know the source for healing and restoration. Today I want to talk about trusting even though you've been hurt.As a woman, I believe that it is important for a man to show up and to be consistent – to be THERE for his woman. I think that one of the most valuable things in the whole world to a man is the heart of the woman he loves. And I believe that it is a man's duty as part of loving his woman to protect her heart and never let it break. Ladies, how many of you have been hurt in the past? My guess is most of if not all of you. Because of this, it's important that guys understand that we are protecting our heart.I've learnt that women really want a man who is consistent, who shows up for her and who doesn't waiver, who is a man of his words and not just a blabber. It's a man's grounded, single-pointed focus on following his purpose, plus showing up for his woman that proves to her that she can open to him. A woman just can't open herself and give herself fully to a man she doesn't trust. Given that many women have been hurt in the past, many of them have closed down to protect themselves. This doesn't mean they don't want love.All women truly want is to be loved, to be seen, to be felt and to be heard. But none of those things are possible without first establishing trust. This is why I think it's important to develop a solid friendship and base before diving into a relationship. I've seen that a lot of women who have been hurt in the past will sometimes rush to bed or have a fling with a guy that she doesn't have feelings for..BUT – when there are feelings, when there's chemistry, many times that is scary and she closes up even more. But really, deep down, I believe that she is waiting for the right man to see her, let her test him and to remain solid.There is a fine line between what I just described and her not being into you. So know the difference. Cos men can like to be so annoying attimes and back out just cos they feel the woman is not meeting them “half way”-RUBBISH!! Men fail to realize that amazing love could blossom on the other side of having patience and just showing up for her. When a woman gives her heart, it is her everything. It is so strong and capable of such love, but at the same time it is so fragile and can be hurt very easily.So,for the guys today, don't give up on her. Give into love. Get to know her. Don't rush. Remember, when it comes to Love, sometimes the patient path is the fastest way. You can have amazing intimacy without sex. And when you build a friendship and intimacy up and let the energy build, you are preparing yourself to be in the most fulfilling, wonderful and sexually exciting relationship(MARRIAGE) you could imagine. Sex without love could be fun, but sex WITH love is Divine and the highest form of union between two people. Why not wait for that? See her hesitancy not as rejection or playing hard to get but as a test to see if you are going to leave or stay. She will open up and give herself to the steadfast man whom she trusts. Be that man. Sometimes you have to fight for love. And sometimes you just have to show up, be present and let it emerge. Have a love filled weekend ahead and remain blessed..Maamamia xx