Train! Don't Blame

Hello beautiful readers, I recently joined a group and I saw a post and shared it with them and someone made a comment about judging and it made me just think a little this morning. Many times in relationships we love to blame the other person.We like to blame them for not loving us the way we want to be loved, or for not making us enough of a priority, or for being too stubborn and on and on.Then we start giving names to the way we interpret others actions. So instead of saying: "Hey, I'd really appreciate it if you let me figure it out on my own," or "The way I really feel loved is when you do this or that or say this or that." When we are lacking, we say: "You're selfish," or assume that they don't love us. So instead of expressing how we feel, we blame, judge and then convict the other person of being guilty. Then we project our verdict onto them and wonder why they react negatively and then use that negative reaction as further proof that our verdict was in fact, correct.Instead of blaming and judging, if we can open up, become vulnerable and EXPRESS our feelings and needs, we give the other person an opportunity to course correct with this new information.And, if over time you are expressing your needs and feelings and they aren't being seen, have the courage to pick up your things and leave. There are over 7billion people in the world  It might seem scary, but showing emotion and expressing your needs is how you build intimacy. And having high standards and the courage to maintain them is how you make sure that only the best kind of relationships remains in your life.It's important that we no longer blame the other person, but instead to see the other person as a mirror of his or her own life. It's important to share your feelings, rather than blaming someone else for not meeting the needs that were never expressed in the first place. It's important you get strength to walk away from a broken and unfulfilled kind of love if your needs and emotions are not being seen. It is also important to be able to also meet the needs of the other person. SO my point is express yourself and set loving boundaries. Have a lovely day..Maamamia Ps: Don’t forget to check out my site, we sell lovely tees for guys and much more, this is just a sneak peak. Its your prerogative :0 www.miasboutique.co.uk

A Path to Self-love

If you're looking for a truly Loving relationship, it is very difficult to be in a relationship with someone who isn't on the path to self-love. We don't have to love ourselves perfectly to find awesome love, but we have to be on the path to self-love.This also means that whomever we choose to be in a relationship with should be on that path, too.There will never be a perfect moment where we love ourselves perfectly and then we can be in a relationship. It's a constant process of discovery with no end. But for a relationship to thrive and for intimacy to emerge, each person must be dedicated to growth; otherwise, you will hit a wall. A huge revelation for me recently has been that nobody, including myself, is perfect. It sounds obvious when I write it, but for many years I would meet people and project this expectation of perfection on to them and I would get mad, angry and hurt when they wouldn't meet that expectation. So, I've recently decided that from the beginning of any relationships I start, that I want to acknowledge my own imperfection as well as the imperfection of the other person and consciously choose to enter into a relationship not seeking perfection, but rather loving each other's imperfections. And instead of looking to the other person to meet all our needs perfectly, to take our eyes off of ourselves and put them on God and God alone. I believe that the only perfect Love is the Love of God. We are constantly nurtured by it: with oxygen, with sun, with community and with free will. We are fully supported in this life by God. It is the thoughts of lack, of fear and of neediness that make us feel as if we are not. When we remember this, we can remember our true essence and start to be at peace. When we realize that the only perfect love is the Love of God, we can no longer have the insane expectations that other people are perfect and expect perfect love from them. We then step into the reality of imperfection that is the human condition. This is a humble place and it is from this humble place that we acknowledge that we need to grow, to work on ourselves and to walk the Path of self-love. To be in relationship with someone who isn't on this path makes Love very difficult. So, are you willing to step out into self-love? Are you willing to set a high standard to let people into your life who have the same commitment? If your answers to these questions are yes then we are on the same path… My relationships are healthy and reflect back to me the love I have for myself. So I would not settle for less.I am worthy of AWESOME LOVE and I let it in now! My life is dedicated to demonstrating the presence of Love on the Earth. These are all my confessions today and I want you to be on the same mindset so you can attract the right one for you. Have a blessed week ahead PS: We hung out on Sunday and it was so cool and refreshing…

Mrs Majekodunmi helped me....

Life can be really unbearing sometimes but He has given us the strength to get through it all and He has given us eachother, well those of us that allow Him to use us and not allowing the devil. Welcome to my corner today or rather tonight depending on when you read this. I have had a rather trying day coupled with the fact that my period came a whole week earlier( thanks to stress), unexpected and on a date..yes on a date! How embarrassing could that be? *sigh* To make matters worse I probably stained his car seat and now I don’t feel like I want to ever see him again  I got back home feeling horrible as I got news that depressed me seriously and made me almost give up on everything and then I remembered the God I serve, then I forgot again when I came home to meet my place in a state of HEAT thanks to the broken down generator, honestly this might sound dramatic but I felt suicidal, then I turned on my laptop and the only thing that interested me was this video shared by a friend who recently lost her husband(Mrs M0. I dunno where they came from but tears just started to gush out hearing her talk without showing her face,For the past 2mnths I have been praying for her and asking God how she must be doing, I know He has a reason for allowing what happened happen and I really don’t want to know but I am so glad she decided to do this ( Its a new blog she is about to start and I will keep you guys posted). I know she will get to that point where she believes she deserves love again and can look beautiful again. I have learnt a lot from this lady reading her posts on facebook and bbm. She has turned her mess into a message and I pray people really learn from her what I am learning from her…For me what I am learning is stepping into your power and connecting back to Love. We all have the ability to take our power back wherever we are in life and at times we all need a reminder.The most important part of life, and the only part of life that we can truly control, is how we react to the things that happen in life. We may have influence over other parts of our life, but the only thing we have 100% control over is how we CHOOSE to react to the events of our lives. One thing I have learnt so far in my life is you’re not a victim but just a co-creator of your life with the help of God or the devil.It’s easy to play the victim, and a lot of people out there will try to convince you that it’s easier to blame other people for the circumstances of your life. One of the reasons it’s easy to be a victim is because you give away the response-ability of the outcome and circumstances of your life to some other person or entity or event.As a victim, we tell ourselves that it’s not our fault; it’s the government’s fault, or our partner's fault, or our friend’s fault or our parents’ fault or life’s fault. If you really get creative you can imagine a whole range of people to blame for your life.Walai! But the truth is that you are the one making the choices in your life. YOU have the free will and ability to CHOOSE to connect to Love, or not.If you’re like me, you’ve probably made a mistake or two in your life (or dozens… lol). For a long time it was easy to blame people for the outcome. When things didn’t go the way I WANTED them to I would just make it someone else’s fault.But, I started to learn differently. Thanks to teachers like Pastor Douglas, Pastor Erica, JoyceMeyer, Michelle, Myles and most importantly Jesus, I began to learn how to take my power back. I began to see that the way we thrive is by making our INNER WORLD stronger than the outer world. An author of a book I read once said that the story you tell yourself about your life will dictate the outcome of it. Anther author reminds us that CHOICE is the most important power in The world. Another teaches that it is the power of your INTENTION that forms the outcome of your life. Another will tell you that life is hard and that when you realize and accept that, life is no longer hard. Another would remind us to love ourselves big time and to keep our thoughts in alignment with what we want, rather than what we don’t want. And of course, the biggest author of all time teaches unconditional Love and says we can experience this Love when we have right thoughts, take right action and keep our focus off of ourselves and keep it instead on Love.How could you possibly let yourself be a victim knowing all these things?If you really get that these lessons are REAL and TRUE and WORK, then, if you’re like me, you will feel called to turn your mess into a message.Add value to other people’s lives and value will be added to your own. (Tweet-worthy!) Being of service and taking the wounds of your life and turning them into lessons and sharing your experience with others will do more good to you and the planet than almost anything else.To be human is to be messy, to screw up, to be screwed on (permit the language) and to not get it right - that just comes with the territory. But it’s not right thought or action to assume the role of the victim. It may seem safer and it may even seem true. But what’s true is that you can take the wounds, messes and tragedies of your life and use them for good.You can take your power back from people, tragedy and anything else that says you are powerless. You are POWERFUL, but you have to choose to be in your power and to step up.Keep your thoughts on Love. Take and assume response-ability for your life. Things may have happened in your past that you have no control over. But what you DO have control over is how you respond to those events. Do you want to let those events get the best of you, or do you want to rise to the occasion, pick yourself up and say, “I got this!”You may not have been able to control what happened in the past, but you have 100% control over what you CHOOSE to believe and, as a result, where you go from here. Like Pastor P said last Sunday be focused, what is your number one priority in life? Once you have that right, life will be a whole lot easier. Phew!!! Now I feel so much better, I can go shower, sleep for like 3hrs and wake up to face life. God is good..Enjoy the rest of the week and pray for Mrs M and all those that know and love J. Maamamia xxx

Love! Let go!

Wow! These past few days for me I must say have been really interesting and God is indeed always teaching me stuff that I can share.Love is letting go.Period.It’s the Energy of Love that binds The world together.Love is what breathes life into us and gives all living things this chance to be alive.One of the most Loving things that we’ve been given from our Creator is the gift of choice/free-will.Choice is a fundamental part of life. Free will is one of our Creator’s greatest gifts to us.Free will boils down to this: you can choose to connect to Love, or not.Since we’ve been given the privilege to choose for ourselves, that means if you Love someone, you must give him or her that privilege. Trying to force or manipulate Love never works – it’ll only backfire.If you say you Love someone because of what they can give you, that’s not Love, that’s selfishness. When you Love someone, it’s always from a place of overflow rather than lack.Respecting someone’s free will can be both devastating AND truly rewarding. When you let people go to decide for themselves, they may choose things that don’t match up with your desires. There have been many times in my own life where this has happened, both in business and in my personal life.But every time this shattering of illusion has happened, it’s brought me closer to the Truth. AND it’s brought me closer to Love.At the same time, when you let go and honor someone’s free will there is also the possibility that they will choose you; and when that happens you have begun to plant very strong roots for a relationship.Love is letting go because no one feels Loved when they are controlled or manipulated. No one really feels Loved when they can sense that someone is trying to take from them instead of give. There is a difference between taking and receiving. It’s sooooo important to be able to receive Love. But to try to drain others of their Love isn’t Loving – it’s being an emotional vampire.All this can be flipped and applies to YOU, too. You deserve to be with someone who Loves you right where you are. You deserve someone who is so connected to Love that they have the confidence to let you choose for yourself. You deserve to be in relationships where people are sharing from overflow rather than trying to be emotional vampires.Choose to hang with people who give you the respect to let you decide. And at the same time give those you Love this same respect.Remember, you are always provided for. God and The Energy of Love are always with you. Ask to feel Love’s presence and you will be filled – not by someone else, but by God. Ps: I went to see some of the kids from push and they are doing so well, taught them about love to and I learnt a lot during that trip. www.pushreliefproject.com

Dear Husband! I will wait for you...

Whoosh! WHasssh!Whiisssh! SO this is my first post this year *covers face* not like i havent been writing, i have been i have been going through a 'phase' anyway will come to that eventually as i have alot to teach :). In other and present news, I listened to this poem a couple of years ago and while having a conversation with one of my close friends, she reminded me of it and i thought to just edit it a bit and post it here today. It is indeed a poem from my heart and I mean every word,EVERY WORD!!! So why was I surprised when he broke into my heart? I called 911, but I was cardiac arrested for aiding and abetting, Cause it was me who let him in… He had a… form of Godliness… but not much. But hey, hey I can change him! So (honey) I’ll TAKE him, I mean he’s close… enough. Ready to sell my aorta for a quarter, not knowing the value of its use to me. Arties so clogged with my will, it blocked His will from flowing through me. So, I thank Christ that His blood pressure gave this heart an attack, That flatlined my obscured vision, put me flat on my back Through my ignorance He sawed, Through my sternum He sawed & cracked open my chest To transplant Psalm 51:10 A new heart & a renewed right spirit within! So now I fully understand, Better yet I thoroughly comprehend, How much I need to wait… for You. See, the bad thing is that I knew he wasn’t you from the beginning.. Cause in the beginning was the Word And he didn’t even sound or shine like Your Son Out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks, And all he could whisper was sweet, empty nothings – Which meant NOTHING. He couldn’t even pray when I needed him to, Asking him to fast would be absurd! So forget about being cleansed & washed with water through the Word… But I know You.. You were already praying for me. Even never having met me, Let me assure you, I will wait for you. I will no longer date, socialize or communicate with carbon copies of you To appease my boredom or to quench my thirstiness I have for attention And short-lived compliments from ‘sorta kindas’. You know…. He ‘sort kinda’ right, but ‘sorta kinda’ wrong? His first name LUKE, His last name WARM. I, I won’t settle for false companionship I won’t lay in the embrace of his arms, Attempting to find some closeness, But never feeling so far apart cause, I just wanna be held Cause ”all I gotta do is Say” No! No more ‘almost sessions’ of ‘almost coming close’ Passing winks & buying drinks, I’ma, I’ma, I’ma flirt! Who flirts with the ideology of, ‘Can you just tell me how much I can get away with & still be saved?’ NO more. I’ll stay in my bed alone, and write poems, about how I will wait for you. He won’t even come close, Our fingers won’t even interlock We won’t even exchange breath Cause I have thoughts that I’ve ‘saved as’ in a file that God has only equipped you to open. I will no longer get weighted down, From so-called friends & family talks, About the concern for my biological clock When I serve the Author of Time. Who is NOT subject to time, But I’M subject to Him, He has the ability to STOP, FAST FORWARD, PAUSE, or REWIND at any given time… So if we could role play, You would be Abraham & I would be Sara Or you can be Isaac & I can be Rebecca – a servant’s answered prayer I am bone of your bone, flesh of your flesh, Made up of your rib Adam! And once we meet, like electrons I will be bound to your nucleus, completely indivisible atom. We even speak the same math: 1 + 1 + 1 = 3, which really equals 1 if you add Him. We were all created in His image, But you have the ability to reflect, project & even detect the Son. If I were to explain what you looked like, You would have to look like a star, A son of the Son.. I would gain energy simply from the light on me. I would need you , in order to complete my photosynthesis I await your revelation, but once again from the genesis, I will wait for you. And I will know you… because when you speak I will be reminded of Solomon’s wisdom, Your ability to lead will remind me of Moses, Your faith will remind me of Abraham, Your confidence in God’s Word will remind me of Daniel, Your inspiration will remind me of Paul, Your heart for God will remind me of David, Your attention to detail will remind me of Noah, Your integrity will remind me of Joseph, And your ability to abandon your own will, will remind me of the disciples, But your ability to love selflessly & unconditionally will remind me of Christ. But I won’t need to identify you by any special Matthews or any special Marks, Cause His word will be tatted all over your heart. And you will know me, and you will find me, Where… the boldness of Esther meets the warm closeness of Ruth. Where the hospitality of Lydia is aligned with the submission of Mary, Which is engulfed in the tears of a praying Hanna. I will be the one, drenched in Proverbs 31… waiting for you. But to my Father, my Father who has known me before I was birthed into this earth Only if you should see fit… I desire Your will above mine, So even if you call me to a life of singleness, My heart is content with YOU – the One who was sent. YOU are the greatest love story ever told, The greatest story ever known You are forever my judge & I’m forever Your witness And I pray that I’m always found on a mission about my Father’s business Oh, I will always be Yours! And I will always wait for You Lord, more than the watchmen wait for the morning More than the watchmen wait for the morning… I will wait.

Compliments of the season....

So i made two flyers thanks to paragonfx goons and I can't decide which i love best so i will just paste both. Hehe! I jsut want to wish everyone the best this seaoson and forever.This is a season to remember and celebrate love, whether you believe in Christmas or not.Wherever you are, whoever you are with, my deepest wish is that this season you feel Love, connection and know that you are enough, as you are. As a Christian, one of the saddest things I see are people who use fear and hate in the name of Christ. You could call them, “I love you, but” people – who, if we are honest, are anything but Loving to anyone who isn’t like them.What’s so ironic is that the Jesus I know Loved everyone as they were. His deepest wish for humanity was that we “Love our neighbour as ourselves.”Not our Christian/muslim/work neighbour or anything else – just our neighbour. And these days, in the global society we live in, all our fellow brothers and sisters on this planet are our neighbours.I tend to leave my beliefs about Jesus out of the blog, because I believe that what is most important is Love. I honour all paths to Love and believe that as long as you are doing your best to embody Love, then it really doesn’t matter what path you are on.Jesus will find you!! I’m saddened when so much anger, hate, bigotry and the like is done in Jesus' name. The Jesus I’ve come to know in the red letter text of the Bible was a radical, fierce and Loving man who Loved all, who embodied a teaching of Love and who left none out.There was no judgment, only Love. Jesus was a teacher who showed us that Grace could cancel karma and that, no matter what we’ve done in our lives, we are Loved unconditionally.Jesus wasn’t a Christian. He was love.His teachings were not dogmatic. They were inclusive. No one was left out and you didn’t have to do it His way. Instead, He asked us to look within.He taught us that our Creator was Love and the only way to truly connect back was to be Loving.His birth was humble, not flashy. There was no bling, no breaking news. He was born in a humble manger, amid nature and people who worked with their hands.He was a carpenter that worked with His hands.And, most importantly, he surrendered His will to the will of Something Greater. He put His focus on serving others and detaching from the outcome.His life, which he lived with “Christ Consciousness,” was not easy; it wasn't an “All is well” kind of life. He participated joyfully in the sorrows of the world and faced judgement, betrayal and persecution with graciousness and courage.He got scared. He got angry. He got afraid. Yet, none of this stopped him from living His mission and putting a massive dent in the world.He reminds us that, “Even the least among ye can do greater things than I." So, he is not an idol to be worshipped, but a role model to to be looked up to, so that we realize that we all have the ability to do Great Works on this planet.Some say that there are only two ways to view Jesus: either madman or a liar. But, we all know that there are always at least three sides to every story. I say He was misunderstood.So, this season, as we celebrate His birth and His gift to the world, my deepest wish is that you keep this in mind: Love truly is the bottom line. There are many messengers of Love, Jesus being one of them.If you have been persecuted, judged or harmed in any way by people calling themselves Christian, please accept my deepest apology. They didn’t know what they were doing, they were just acting out of fear. Fear that you are different. Fear that you represent the unknown.I’m so sorry that you’ve been hurt. I’ve been hurt, too more than you can ever imagine. But that shouldn’t stop us from Loving.Don’t let the judgment of humans take you away from the Love of The Uni-verse and our Creator. Wherever you are, have an amazing day filled with Love, family and a renewed sense that you are enough and Loved just as you are. Merry Christmas and a prosperous new year

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