Words!! Words!!! Words!!!! This tool is so powerful oh my
gosh...I can't even stress on it enough. I am so eager to post this because
this was sent directly to me by the Holy Spirit at the RIGHT time...God is so
good..He is!! He is always there, always, especially at your lowest. He said it
that He will never leave nor forsake you and He MEANT IT.
I have
always been a person of words and I remember doing the love language test twice
in the space of two years and my results were exactly the same with "words
of affirmation" topping the list, well i wasn't surprised because growing
up i have always known the effect of words-be it positive or negative and i try
to let those who come into my life along the way aware of this so they
know how to not hurt me. Well, now let us see what the bible says:
“Proverbs 12:18 There is that speaketh like the
piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health"
There are words that are cutting and killing; words, which grieve the spirits
of those to whom they are spoken, and cut them to the heart; or slanders, which
wound the reputation of those of whom they are uttered, and perhaps incurably;
or whisperings and evil surmising, which divide and cut asunder the bonds of
love and friendship, and separate those that have been very dear to each other;
but the tongue of the wise is health — His speech, both in judgement and in
common discourse, is sound and wholesome in itself, and tends to the comfort
and benefit of others, closing up those wounds which the backbiting tongue had
made, restoring peace, accommodating matters, and persuading persons at
variance to a reconciliation.
Relationships can fill our lives with joy and delight. But
they can also tear us apart with heartache. Good relationships take hard work,
especially when you have to mend broken bonds with the people you love most.
Because all of us are imperfect, misunderstandings and
differences are inevitable. Often, however, a successful relationship depends
less on compatibility than on HOW YOU DEAL WITH INCOMPATIBILITY..
In Colossians
3:14 - the bible says “binds everything together in perfect harmony".
Therefore, one of the most
essential skills in relationship is the ability to resolve disagreements in a
loving way. What we say,how we say and how we listen to others is
important to God. He warns us that "death and life are in the power of the
tongue" and that we must give account of "every idle word" we
speak (Proverbs 18:21; Matthew 12:36).
Thankfully the Bible records a number of things that can
help us understand others and be understood—which is the essence of respectful
communication in relationship.
God has revealed many important principles in the Bible on
how to speak to each other respectfully in relationships. By following these
keys, you can strengthen your relationships and learn to think and act more
like your loving Creator.
James
1:19 - "So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow
to speak, slow to wrath."
Many
of the communication problems that wreck relationships come from violating
these three keys. We tend to be slow to listen but quick to speak our minds and
in the resulting confusion and selfishness we are very quick to get our
feelings hurt and to get angry.
It's
natural to think we know what other people want or need before they finish
asking. And we generally assume that what we have to say is what the other person
should really be interested in hearing. Listening skills are rarely taught and
generally neglected.
Proverbs
18:2 - A fool has no delight in understanding, but in expressing his own heart.
We all
want to, and are taught to, express ourselves. But when our desire for
self-expression keeps us from trying to really understand the other person, we
are being foolish and selfish. This is the opposite of the attitude the apostle
Paul encouraged: "Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit,
but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each
of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of
others" (Philippians 2:3-4).
Proverbs
10:19 clarifies that it is a "multitude of words" that generally causes
the problem. You should avoid being overly talkative and garrulous.
Also we must be very careful to think before we speak and to choose our words
carefully. Whatever we say should be edifying and intended to reflect the
nature of Christ and to glorify God.
Colossians
4:6 - "Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you
may know how you ought to answer each one".
Proverbs 15:1-2
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly, but the mouth of fools pours
forth foolishness.
I pray God gives us the patience needed to be able to
communicate effectively with one another and avoid damaging souls. It is well!!
