Your Anger is causing damage!!!

Angry outbursts are destructive in all relationships, especially in your home. Children are the most vulnerable to parental anger, and they mirror their parents’ behaviour. We shape our children’s destiny by our words, behaviours, and attitudes, and if they’re raised in a home that’s consistently high-volume, they’ll react similarly. Your actions are training your children to be hysterical and violent. Soon everyone will be overreacting, flying into fits of rage, and attacking one another. When you exhibit tantrum-like behaviour you’re acting out of a selfish need to get what you want, when you want it, in the way you think you ought to have it. Please - for your family’s sake - start acting like an adult; exhibit self-control. ‘Imitate those who through faith and patience inherit the promises’ (Hebrews 6:12 NKJV). Notice, you must have faith and patience. You may not be able to control what happens in life, but you can certainly control your reaction. Whether it’s the anger a father brings home from the workplace, or a wife’s anger towards her husband, it can bring a curse. Simeon and Levi harboured anger in their hearts and became vicious and vindictive murderers. Because of this, a curse came upon them, and the anger was passed down from generation to generation (see Genesis 49). You must break the curse by resisting the temptation to let anger dictate your behaviour. In the words of James: ‘My dear brothers, take note … Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires’ (James 1:19-20)

Words are POWERFUL!!!

Words!! Words!!! Words!!!! This tool is so powerful oh my gosh...I can't even stress on it enough. I am so eager to post this because this was sent directly to me by the Holy Spirit at the RIGHT time...God is so good..He is!! He is always there, always, especially at your lowest. He said it that He will never leave nor forsake you and He MEANT IT.

I have always been a person of words and I remember doing the love language test twice in the space of two years and my results were exactly the same with "words of affirmation" topping the list, well i wasn't surprised because growing up i have always known the effect of words-be it positive or negative and i try to  let those who come into my life along the way aware of this so they know how to not hurt me. Well, now let us see what the bible says:

“Proverbs 12:18 There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health" There are words that are cutting and killing; words, which grieve the spirits of those to whom they are spoken, and cut them to the heart; or slanders, which wound the reputation of those of whom they are uttered, and perhaps incurably; or whisperings and evil surmising, which divide and cut asunder the bonds of love and friendship, and separate those that have been very dear to each other; but the tongue of the wise is health — His speech, both in judgement and in common discourse, is sound and wholesome in itself, and tends to the comfort and benefit of others, closing up those wounds which the backbiting tongue had made, restoring peace, accommodating matters, and persuading persons at variance to a reconciliation.

Relationships can fill our lives with joy and delight. But they can also tear us apart with heartache. Good relationships take hard work, especially when you have to mend broken bonds with the people you love most.

Because all of us are imperfect, misunderstandings and differences are inevitable. Often, however, a successful relationship depends less on compatibility than on HOW YOU DEAL WITH INCOMPATIBILITY..

In Colossians 3:14 - the bible says “binds everything together in perfect harmony".
 Therefore, one of the most essential skills in relationship is the ability to resolve disagreements in a loving way. What we say,how we say and how we listen to others is important to God. He warns us that "death and life are in the power of the tongue" and that we must give account of "every idle word" we speak (Proverbs 18:21; Matthew 12:36).

Thankfully the Bible records a number of things that can help us understand others and be understood—which is the essence of respectful communication in relationship.

God has revealed many important principles in the Bible on how to speak to each other respectfully in relationships. By following these keys, you can strengthen your relationships and learn to think and act more like your loving Creator.

James 1:19 - "So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath."

Many of the communication problems that wreck relationships come from violating these three keys. We tend to be slow to listen but quick to speak our minds and in the resulting confusion and selfishness we are very quick to get our feelings hurt and to get angry.

It's natural to think we know what other people want or need before they finish asking. And we generally assume that what we have to say is what the other person should really be interested in hearing. Listening skills are rarely taught and generally neglected.

Proverbs 18:2 - A fool has no delight in understanding, but in expressing his own heart.

We all want to, and are taught to, express ourselves. But when our desire for self-expression keeps us from trying to really understand the other person, we are being foolish and selfish. This is the opposite of the attitude the apostle Paul encouraged: "Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others" (Philippians 2:3-4).

Proverbs 10:19 clarifies that it is a "multitude of words" that generally causes the problem. You  should avoid being overly talkative and garrulous. Also we must be very careful to think before we speak and to choose our words carefully. Whatever we say should be edifying and intended to reflect the nature of Christ and to glorify God.

Colossians 4:6 - "Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one".

Proverbs 15:1-2
A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
The tongue of the wise uses knowledge rightly, but the mouth of fools pours forth foolishness.

I pray God gives us the patience needed to be able to communicate effectively with one another and avoid damaging souls. It is well!!

Prayer for anxiety.....

Lord, I confess that there are things that make me feel anxious in my soul. I lift them up to You and ask that You would take those anxieties away and give me Your peace. Comfort my soul as only You can do. Help me to understand my life and my circumstances from Your perspective so that i won't be tempted to dwell on them with a heavy heart. Thank You for the comfort of Your unfailing love.

It Is Well With My Soul......

At a time when I almost gave up being happy and hating myself for who I am (Imagine!), I read a story and it encouraged me, so thought to share. 

A King had a male servant who, in all circumstances always said to him; My king, do not be discouraged because everything God does is perfect, no mistakes. One day, they went hunting and a wild animal attacked the king, the servant managed to kill the animal but couldn't prevent his majesty from losing a finger. Furious and without showing gratitude, the King said; if God was good, I would not have been attacked and lost one finger. The servant replied, 'despite all these things, I can only tell you that God is good and everything He does is perfect, He is never wrong'. Outraged by the response, the king ordered the arrest of his servant. While being taken to prison, he told the king again, God is Good & Perfect. Another day, the king left alone for another hunt and was captured by savages who use human beings for sacrifice. On the altar, the savages found out that the king didn't have one finger in place, he was released because he was considered not "complete" to be offered to the gods. On his return to the palace, he ordered the release of his servant and said; My friend, God was really good to me. I was almost killed but for lack of a single finger, I was let go. But I have a question; If God is so good, why did He allow me to put you in prison? His servant replied; My king, if I had not been put in prison, I would have gone with you, and would have been sacrificed, because I have no missing finger. Everything God does is perfect, He is never wrong. Often we complain about life, and the negative things that happen to us, forgetting that everything happens for a purpose. God is good and perfect!!The song "It Is Well With My Soul" was written by a successful Christian lawyer Heratio Spafford,his only son died at age 4 in 1871,in 1872, the great Chicago fire wiped out his vast estate made from a successful legal career, in 1873 he sent his wife & 4 daughters over to Europe on a summer trip on the ill fated ville du Havre. Since he had a lot of work to do, he planned to follow them later.The Ship sank & he lost his 4 daughters with the wife being the only survivor,she sent him a famous telegram which simply read,SAVED ALONE....  On His return home, his Law firm was burned down and the insurance refused to pay, they said "It's An Act Of God".  He had no money to pay for his house and no work, he also lost his house.  Then while sitting and thinking what's happening to him, being a spiritual person, he wrote a song - whatever my Lord, you have taught me to say - It is well, it is well with my soul.  My dear friend, a good attitude will determine your altitude.  When you look at your life, career, job or family life, what do you say?  Do you praise God? Do you blame the devil?  A good attitude towards God makes Him move on your behalf.  Just sit down and say, Today God, it is well with my soul, I am thankful I had a peaceful sleep, I am thankful I am alive with possibilities, I am thankful I have a roof over me, I am thankful I have a job and a successful business, I am thankful that I have Family and Friends.  Above all, I am thankful that I have the Lord on my side.  Be blessed and don't be envious or shocked when others are prospering because you don't know what they have been through to get there (test, trials and tribulation) so thank God for what you have.  "Little is much when God is in it. It Is Well With My Soul!  Have a blessed day and take control of your emotions..Trust God always with a genuine smile from within.

Thank You Father for everything....

Wow! What a year. I count it all joy, even though there were moments the devil tried to make me believe my God had forsaken me. I thank God for renewed strength and mind for I came out victorious. I am loved! You are loved! We are all loved by Him, for He is a good good Father. His word says that what He has for us is "exceedingly abundantly" above all that we can think or ask. Now that is just amazing because we know we can think of and ask for a GREAT deal, but He promises us more than that, meaning He will wow us. With great anticipation, i look forward to what He has ahead for me in my future and i urge you to do the same. May He help us not to get in the way of anything He has planned to do in and through us. Happy holidays xxxx

Ephesians 3:20-21

Don't lose faith

“I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith” (Eph. 3:16-17).

The devil is constantly trying to lie to us so we may lose faith in God. Faith is the only thing that God requires for Him to dwell in our hearts. He wants us to believe that through Christ we can do all things for real...Rather than the “fix-its” we mistakenly desire, God’s thought instead is that we would believe Him in regard to who His Son is to be in our lives. And not a “i'm just holding on” kind of faith, but an overcoming, ever-increasing, active faith in Jesus, the One God sent. This is how He dwells and lives in our hearts with power in our inner man—by Faith! Not by “pleasant” circumstances. Not by comfortable relationships. Not by having my peaceful times. No. It is BY FAITH that He can express Himself and live His life out through each of us. Believing that He is who He said He is. Sent from God; Lived in a Holy reverence and responsiveness and Love for His Father; Walked His life here sacrificially, putting others always before His own needs; Stuck by God and with God all the way to the very end without wavering or giving up or being selfish, to the very end when He finally was killed by hateful people. And then God raised Him in His body, flesh, mind, spirit and All, from the dead. He came up out of death, and God gloriously lifted Him to the heights of heaven and all authority, power, love, grace and Lordship were bestowed on Him forevermore. This is the One we believe. This is the One we trust. Let’s not hold back!

I exhort myself and whoever would listen to lift up our heads to our glorious God in heaven who is continually shining His life and love down upon us. Continually giving us opportunity upon opportunity to find Him and know Him in a special way in the “little” things in our lives. A conscious effort to turn away from sexual sin because we trust Him. Appreciating life and the blessings we see and do not see. A crossroads decision to deny myself and love someone who impinged on my so-called “rights.” Those painful moments when you should really just keep your mouth shut and reject selfishness. Lift up my head to see the One who went before us and who has provided every single need that I have. Let us trust Him and trust Him and trust Him that He will take care of us. We must determine diligently to trust in Him and love His ways no matter how much it hurts or how uncertain the future may look.Not back off or zone out or be shallow. Let’s go all the way? What have we got to lose? Nothing! His promise to us is that He would dwell in our hearts THROUGH FAITH!! Please let us not allow the enemy steal this precious gift. 

The importance of hearing God’s Voice

 A lot of us are so lazy that we allow people deceive us and speak into our lives and say it was God…RIDICULOUS!!! If you do not work out your salvation, the devil will lead you to destruction. Jesus said His sheep hear His voice, meaning we have to first be sheep in the spiritual context of the Good Shepherd. We have to follow God, and then we will hear His voice. It is a shame because I know so many people that have been deceived and led out of their God given destiny by so called men of god because they are too lazy to know God for themselves, these so called men of god will hear a little rumour then call you and tell you nonsense about your destiny and you will listen in fear just because you refuse to follow God..Such a big shame!! I sympathise and mourn with people like that because they have indeed buried their destinies.

I hear from God alllll the time. He is so awesome and talks to me every time. He also tells me when fake prophets speak to me. I hear Him through my trials; I hear Him through preachers and teachers. I hear Him through spiritual songs and hymns. I hear Him through reading His word, I hear Him through fellowship and conversation with my Christian friends,  I hear Him through the Holy Spirit, I hear Him all the time. The main problem people face is the ability to hear and recognize the voice of God, and this may lead to another problem, but you know what? God is good all the time and even in our disobedience and ignorance he cares passionately for us and will always find a way out for us, we just need to choose to allow Him lead.He is tooo good! I can never turn my back on such an awesome God. The enemy is constantly trying to distract us and steal our righteousness so we can no longer hear from God. Be Vigilant!!! Until we comprehend who we are in Christ, It is impossible to live a life of obedience that will enable us to hear God’s voice. God is active all around us, He is just too awesome, even when we fall, He is always waiting to pick us back up as long as we admit and reach out to Him for help. He is yearning for us to corporate with Him and delete the idea that we could do anything solely in our own strength.  What a mighty God we serve…Please make it your priority in life to seek first His Kingdom…..Have a blessed week ahead…Maamamia xxx